Just Because...

A friend of mine posted a message on FaceBook today that her husband bought her a bunch of pink roses "Just Because"... Of course, this is followed by a bunch of other women fawning over how sweet that is and what a great husband he is.

I've got news for them... That's not how guys work.

Guys don't give flowers or do other nice things "just because". Sure, we tell you it is "just because", but that's not true. Don't get mad, it's similar to the situations where we ask "What's wrong?" and you answer "Nothing". We know damn well that it's not "nothing", but we play along to humor you.

There is always something after the "just because". Sometimes it is "just because I want to divert your attention from something I did that will probably tick you off." Other times it might be "just because this might increase my chances of getting some action later." Maybe even "just because I want to go hang out with the guys later to watch the game and don't want to be hassled about not spending time together". We always have some idea in the back of our minds about what we hope to accomplish with random flowers, etc.

Another thing... guys, by nature, are not overly romantic individuals. Those things just don't come naturally. Sure, we might pop off some odd romantic idea on occasion, but it's not a regular occurrence. Don't get mad or frustrated at us, that's just the way it is. Women are wired have romantic thoughts, guys are wired to watch sports on TV, hunt, and other manly stuff.

I know there are lots of young, single women out there with idealistic thoughts about some dreamy guy that is perfect looking and is always thinking of romantic ideas. You are correct, there are guys like that around. You just don't have a shot at guys like them. They are already taken - by other men with the same characteristics. Sorry, that's just how it is.

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For the record, I just read this post to Shelly. It was met with an eye roll and a "whatever". Now, I'm smart enough to know that "whatever" doesn't mean "whatever, that's fine". It means "Whatever, you know that nice, romantic dinner we just had at a restaurant with real napkins and 3 forks next to the plate, that you took me to 'just because'... You just cancelled that out".